He's keen to get hitched. I don't see the need for marriage. Should I give in to please him?

"Ask yourself if it's him you don't want to marry or marriage itself you don't want to participate in," says Dr Bella Ellwood-Clayton, a sexual anthropologist. "If it's option A then Do. Not. Marry. Him." If it's B then ascertain who feels stronger about the issue on an importance scale of one to 10. If getting married is a 10 for him, and you're not fussed either way and it'll make him really happy then you could see this as one of the many compromises you'll make in the relationship. On the other hand, if getting hitched is against the very moral fibre of your being then say so and he can choose to either live with that, or move on.

He rubbishes global warming and won't compost, cut down on fuel or even recycle. How do I get him onside?

Just as he can't curb your Grey's Anatomy addiction. you can't change him either. "All you can do is lead by example. I'd suggest pulling right back and not insisting," says relationship specialist Phillip Johnson. Of course, it depends on how strongly you feel about the issue. If you're an ecovangelical, and your partner's about as green as Exxon, you could be in trouble. "This is why I suggest all couples come in for pre-marital counselling," says Johnson. "You each need to draw up a list of non-negotiable beliefs. If you're not sharing beliefs right from the beginning it can cause awful trouble down the line." Yikes. Could be a good time to be talking religion, politics, abortion and the death penalty then...

He's considering a job overseas. I have a great career here. Do I move for love?

It depends what's most important to you at this stage of your life - job, relationship, family... "You need to do a plus and minus list for both of you," says Dr Janet Hall, a clinical psychologist and sex therapist. "If he loves you, and your job has the best future, he should stay here." If you're really at loggerheads call in outside help. "Never make a life-changing decision like this without a counsellor. It's not a matter of rights or insisting, it's about values and positive mental health and the priority of the relationship in the long run." One "solution" not to try: Long distance. "Relationships rarely last over time and distance," says Dr Hall.

I'm about to end my relationship. How do I minimise his pain?

"There is no nice way of ending a relationship, if you are the one ending it," says WH sex and relationships expert Sara Chatwin. And ain't that the truth. "You just need to focus on yourself, and ensure you are operating with integrity, honesty and respect for the other person, and keep your behaviour seemly." No matter what you think might help, there's no way you can control the way he will feel or act. "Often people spend a lot of time focussing on what the other person is doing or might do, and you can't do anything about that. This is a time to think about yourself first."

Why does he get so angry when someone cuts him off in traffic?

Blame the cavemen. "It's tribal. If some guy cuts in on our territory, we've got to wipe him out because he's a potential threat," says Allan Pease, author of Why Men Don't Listen & Women Can't Read Maps ($34.99, Pease International). Almost all road rage in the world is men attacking other men; if a female cuts them off they'll dismiss it. Talk to him about it at a time when he's not under any stress, and definitely not when you're in the car (you don't want to become a prime example of 'When Good Conversations Go Bad'). "To get him to make a behavioural change try saying 'I need your help' instead of "We need to talk'," says Pease. "Men love giving you help. Say "I'm worried about your driving, it frightens me. I'd like you to develop a strategy so I don't have to worry."

I worry about my partner's health - and the fact that he doesn't. Is nagging my only option?

Save your breath - nagging's about as useful as it is fun. "It will hurt your relationship if you try to control your partner's life," says Dr Ginni Mansberg, a GP who sees this problem all the time. You're not entirely impotent - the key is to influence your partner, not dictate. "When it's your turn to cook, make a healthy meal. On the nights you go out for dinner, suggest sushi." Dr Mansberg's biggest piece of advice: "If him looking after his health is a pre-requisite of your relationship, bail now and find someone else who will."