The Inevitable Affair
I'd been married for four years and things were not going well. We were arguing all the time and generally not getting on. I turned to one of my colleagues. She was single and always there to listen to me. The inevitable happened and we ended up in bed.

After we slept together I felt really guilty. I couldn't forgive myself for being so weak and became depressed and withdrawn. I couldn't tell anyone, but knew what I had done was wrong. I ended up on antidepressants and am still trying to deal with what I did.

I'm still married, but not sure for how much longer. If there's something wrong in your relationship, don't look elsewhere - try to solve the problem first. - Mike, Hobart, Tas


Bachelor at Heart
I shouldn't have got engaged; I was a real bachelor - out all the time and seeing as many girls as possible. I couldn't come to grips with the fact that I had to be faithful - I still wanted to behave like a single bloke. I flirted with all the girls at work and it became an office joke. that I was always on the pull, especially when a new girl started.

Someone told me my fiance what I was up to and she confronted me. She was devastated and ended up slapping my face and screaming at me. We split up after that and I'm still single 10 years later. My advice: be completely sure what you're doing and don't get caught up in the excitement. - Matt, Melbourne, Vic

Affairs Help My Marriage
I've had four affairs and I've never been caught. I'm happily married and think that's why my relationship at home has lasted so long. I don't know whether my wife knows or not, but she seems happy and never questions me. The fact is, we don't have a great sex life, so I look elsewhere.

Work affairs are always the most exciting because of the risk factor, but if it all goes wrong there's the possibility that it could get nasty, seeing the perosn every day. Having an affair with a colleague is very dangerous because everything is magnified. Having said that, it makes going to work every day fun. - Peter, Fremantle, WA

She Turned Nasty
I was her boss and she was 11 years younger than me, so I was flattered that she welcomed my attentions. But after seeing her for a month or two I got cold feet and realised that I still loved my wife.

I tried to break up with her but she turned nasty and badmouthed me at every chance. I was trapped because she threatened to tell everyone what had happened between us.

I ended up leaving my job so I could start again.

You have to look at the worst-possible-case scenario because it can all go wrong. If you're going to have an affair, do it with your eyes open. - Dan, Rockhampton, Qld