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It’s a chore thing

Jun 16 09:00am

Everybody benefits when kids help around the house

If you ever doubt your child’s inventiveness, just ask them to tidy their room or help fold the washing. As far as they’re concerned, it’s no coincidence ‘chore’ rhymes with ‘bore’.

Perth-based child behaviour expert Brad Williams has some advice for you: don’t. “Chores are a great opportunity to spend time with your kids, to teach them, to build their self-esteem, independence and inclination to have a go,” says Williams. That’s all very well, but how do you get past their initial evasiveness?

Get in early
If you haven’t got the patience to reason with a five-year-old, don’t think it’s going to be any easier when they’re eight. “You need to do the groundwork when they’re younger if they’re going to develop the willingness to do chores,” explains Williams.

Match the age The first step in getting kids accustomed to helping out is to make sure the tasks are age-appropriate. Don’t be asking a three-year-old to clean windows. “And if you want a four-year-old to put away their clothes, help them out at first before gradually leaving it to them,” advises Williams. Remember, too, that kids don’t necessarily know how to do what might seem simple tasks, so take the time to teach them.

Cut some slack Kids being kids, there’ll be occasions when they leave a chore half-finished. Instead of fuming at them, “praise them for what they’ve done and encourage them to complete the task,” says Williams. Above all, avoid threats about potential consequences, which, warns Williams, only serve to cast the chores in a negative light.

Join the dots Rather than offer pocket money in return for completing chores, spell out how their contribution benefits them – and the family – in other ways. “You might say ‘I really appreciate you putting your shoes away, it gives me more time to kick the footy with you’,” suggests Williams.

Refine your sales pitch “Look at how you ‘sell’ the whole idea of chores,” says Williams. “That starts with looking at how you model the chores you do: do you do them apathetically, or do you attack them? Kids will mirror that.” Oh, and consider the timing. “Chances are you won’t get a good reaction if you ask them to put the washing away when they’re on PlayStation with their mate.”
 

  

8 Comments Report Abuse
1. lizbennettmusic - Jun 22 11:31am
This exactly what I did with my 3 boys. Putting away toys was always fun....."now we have 5 minutes to tidy up the toys and then we are going to....." Look at your watch and only take 5 minutes even if there are a couple of things still on the floor. Usually the kids will want to complete the job.
2. foxyfoxyg - Jun 22 01:49pm
handipoints.com or handipoints.com.au is a great online site that shows what chores would sit each age group..I came across it by accident and its a great little list of jobs for the kids to do..PS I dont own or have anythig to do with the company so not trying to promo or anything
3. cathy_hrbrt - Jun 22 02:40pm
My daughter was always willing to help with chores often doing them without me asking her and more. However, now that she is 18, getting to pick up her own mess is a feat of its own. The alternative is now to move out. Kids may start out with the right attitude but will eventually do their own thing
4. garrypotplant1 - Jun 22 03:33pm
well im a boy and i do nothing all i do is fart
5. zac_vanessa_fan - Jun 22 06:17pm
kids hate doing chores because all parents do now is force it on them n if they dont do it straight away when the parent wants it done even if they are busy doin sumthin else they will get screamed at n punished. its like kids have to drop everything and anything when their parent wants stuff but if
6. zac_vanessa_fan - Jun 22 06:18pm
they want sumthin they have to work for it or wait for it and their parent will just seem to be waiting for them to do sumthing bad so they dnt have to do that for them. Kids rnt a parents slave but that’s wat we r treated like
7. funnymummy7 - Jun 22 09:06pm
I think kids helping with chores is a great idea. My daughter does her fair share around the house (age-appropriate)
But she does earn her pocket money by doing her chores.
I dont see the problem with paying her as thats the real world - you have to work to earn your money.
8. krani_77 - Jun 30 09:30am
I don't think giving money is a appropriate except if they work for someone else its bcoz i knw someone who did n now they're old n their kidz don't come to help except they parents pay for it. I think we should teach them as part of a family, its really important to help each other.
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