Question:
I have just come out of a relationship (he ended it) and am having difficulty letting go. I understand that this man may not be my soul mate / twin flame, but I still wish we could be together, if only to experience one another in the moment because I was happy when I was with him.

We had a long separation and when he returned to me, he said his feelings had changed. I feel as if he didn't give us enough time together and am frustrated by this. I keep telling myself to let go. I keep trying to meditate, to live in the moment, to accept the now, but I feel as if this man and I have a past / karmic connection that has not been resolved.

How do I overcome my desire to be with him, which is making me miserable because I am not with him, and let go once and for all? 

Answer:
This may take a little while for you to come to terms with the reality of the breakup, so be gentle with yourself in the meantime.

Be aware that you have a narrative that is in conflict with what is actually the case, and when you continue to believe in a story that isn’t true, then it is bound to make life difficult. You think that if you could be with him again you would be happy.

His feelings would change, your connection would be resolved. But the facts are he isn’t with you, and he said after his feelings changed that he wanted to end the relationship.

So you are going to have to find resolution and happiness without him. Your idea that he is required for that is not true. When you come to terms with this, you will have let go, and your life will move forward again.

Love, Deepak